These days it can feel confusing. There are so many options out there and all will claim they can deliver maximum pleasure. But the reality is our sexual tastes and desires differ from person to person and as much as many of us function similarly, we are also vary. To make sure you get the best suited product for you, there are a few questions you need to ask yourself.
- Have you used any products before?
- Is this for solo play, to use with a partner or both?
- If this is to use with a partner, how does your partner feeling about sex toys?
- What body part of expertise are you looking to explore/stimulate?
- Have you had an orgasm before?
- If you have experienced an orgasm before, do you achieve orgasms through clitoral or g spot stimulation?
- Do you want something that vibrates? If so do you want a light vibration or a strong/intense one?
This will depend on the type of material it is made from and you need to be sure to check with each product. If it’s glass or mental, you may be able to put it in the dishwater or place it in boiling water. For most products that are silicone, each manufacture will have a preference to ensure you don’t damage the material. Some are ok with washing it with soap and water, however I prefer to use a toy sanitizer. You can purchase some that are sprays or foam and both are for sale on this website. It makes it easier and simple and then there is a guarantee you have killed any bacteria. You should also clean your toy before and after use is possible.
It’s important to talk to your partner about it first instead of just springing it on them. Discuss any concerns or fears they have and address these don’t dismiss them. Talk openly about what you each person might desire out of a product and use this as a great opportunity to explore fantasies. It can also be a lot of fun to shop together to ensure your purchase is in line with your sexual desires as a couple.
I am passionate about products in the adult world being what we call body safe. Unfortunately, due to outdated regulations, there are chemicals that can be used that have been banned in other products, specifically something called phthalates. However, all the products for sale on this website are body safe. In terms of anything that is inserted into the anal passage, it’s important that they have a flared based or handle to ensure they do not get stuck internally. This is also why it’s important to purchase a product that specifically is designed for anal play to ensure this is the case.
This will depend on the type of material your product is made from. Most silicone products recommend a water based lubricant, however some do say it’s safe to use a silicone lubricant as well. But it’s important to check as for some products using a silicone lubricant can break down the material of the product. For each product on this website, I have listed the recommended type of lubricant that is suitable.
There is a movement calling sex toys other more elegant sounding terminology such as adult products, adult pleasure products and sexual health products or aids. There are of course many more, but these are just a few common ones used. I tend to float around because I don’t mind all of them. It often depends on the type of product and how you see them. For me, enhancing sexual pleasure should be sexual health, however I also need to acknowledge that for many, these products are still referred to as sex toys. I aim to influence a sex positive change but at the same time need to balance this with using terminology that those I am speaking to also use. Feel free to use whatever terminology fits for you, but challenge how the terms you use portrays what you are talking about and how you want it viewed by others.
Firstly, it’s important to store them in some sort of a bag or purse. Most people store them in their bedside drawer or another drawer in their bedroom. You need to consider however the bacteria in the bottom of the drawer, what else it in there and how often you clean it out. Hence why a bag, sleeve or pouch is recommended. Some products do come with a bag for storage. If your product has batteries, storing it without the batteries inside can help it to last longer. It’s also important to keep your products in a cool, dry place.
Most manufactures do provide instructions on each product either online or with the product itself. However, as I understand that this can seem often sound confusing, I have re written my own descriptions on this website to better help you understand each product and also recorded videos explaining what each product is used for and how it is used. If you are still unsure about a product, how to use it or if it’s the right one for you. Please don’t hesitate to contact me.